I was supposed to go golfing with a friend today but he just called to say he can't make it. Apparently a friend of his wife who was 8 months pregnant, lost her baby so they are going to go over to console her. My friend is not quite sure what his role is supposed to be. Maybe he's supposed to talk to the husband but I don't think they are all that close so it is kind of awkward and it doesn't sound like he wants to go. This sounds like more of a one on one with his wife and her friend. Apparently they still have to deliver the baby which must be very disheartening. He said they will name it and have a burial, the whole works. This kind of got me thinking. Would you still use your #1 name or would you use a lesser choice and hold on to the #1 name for a hopeful future kid? I guess it depends on how attached you are to that #1 name. Some people, like my wife, picked out a name years ago and have been holding it in secret for all this time. Other people have a couple finalists that are all essentially equal so it wouldn't be all that bad to burn up the current front-runner. I have to admit, I think I'd probably go with a secondary name, or better yet, name the kid after my mother in law.